How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then rest afterward. ~ Proverb
Lately I’ve been trying to find a balance between “doing” and “being.”
Balancing my time between the desire to do more of what I’m on this planet to do (coach more women!) with my opposite desire.
To rest and replenish my soul.
And nurture my creativity.
In a world that frequently pushes us to go faster and faster — and do more, more, more!! — resting isn’t always encouraged.
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For years I was a “yes” person.
If someone made a request of me, I’d say yes without hesitation.
But it got me into all sorts of trouble.
Not huge trouble.
Just the “why did I say yes, I don’t really want to do it” kind.
The kind that put someone else’s need before my own.
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What a funny little word.
Yet so powerful.
It calls for action. For movement forward.
And sometimes it calls for courage.
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I’m in that in-between place again. The one I call “limbo-land.”
The space between “no longer” and “not yet” (as Life Coach, Nancy Levin calls it).
I’ve left some things behind.
That I was ready to let go of.
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Years ago while going through my divorce, my therapist suggested I do an exercise about my parents.
I was working through some stuff around my own marriage, as well as the one that had been role-modeled to me by my mom and dad.
The exercise involved taking two pieces of paper and drawing a vertical line down the middle of each.
At the top of one column I wrote “my father.” And at the top of the other, “my mother.”
On one of the papers I listed all the traits I liked about my parents. On the other, all the ones I didn’t.
Needless to say it was a very powerful exercise.
One I’ve never forgotten.
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About a month ago – or “BTP” (before the pandemic) – I created a YouTube video called Start Before You’re Ready.
Given the climate at the time, the video was light and encouraging. It was meant to inspire you to overcome your fear of imperfection, failure/success, or procrastination.
To do the very thing you love. No matter what.
And to do it now.
Before you’re ready.
Since that time the whole world has shifted. But I’ve come to realize that those words “start before you’re ready” couldn’t be more relevant. Or more true.
Or more important than they are at this time.
Years ago, a thoughtful manager of mine introduced me to the power of self-compassion.
She wrote “be gentle on your soul” inside a beautiful journal she’d given me as a going away gift.
I was leaving my job to move across the world, in hopes of starting a new life in Scotland.
I was young and full of hope.
Both excited and nervous about taking such a huge leap of faith, into the unknown.
I’ve never forgotten how good it felt to open the cover of that journal, and read her words for the very first time.
Be gentle on your soul.
I loved the way those words sounded.
They resonated deep within me.
And gave me the permission, I unknowingly craved, to treat myself more kindly. As I took risks, and moved forward into the uncharted territory of my life.
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For over a year now I’ve had a burning desire to post videos on social media. I’ve always enjoyed being in front of an audience, so it’s no big surprise.
But what is surprising (at least to me) is that I wasn’t making it happen.
No matter how much I wanted to, I just couldn’t take any action.
I felt frustrated and stuck.
I was paralyzed with fear. Of putting myself out there.
Every time I got close to posting something I’d think: “don’t be ridiculous, who the heck is going to watch you?”
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