Whenever I get stuck in life, one of my favourite proverbs to help me move forward is:
“The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The next best time is now.”
It makes me realize how easy it is for us to get stuck in the past.
We say things like:
โI shouldโve planted that tree (followed that dream!) 20 years ago.”
I canโt believe I wasted all that time!”
“What was I thinking?”
“I guess it’s too late now.”
And we end up beating ourselves up.
For all the time we wasted.
And for what โcouldโve been.โ
And staying exactly where we are.
Stuck.
Instead of recognizing that we canโt change the past.
And thereโs really no point in wishing we could.
No point in regretting all the things we couldโve/shouldโve done, but didnโt.
Because when we do โ when we focus on all the โif-onlyโs โ weโre just wasting more of our precious time!
Weโre looking backwards.
Instead of moving forward.
And hurting ourselves even more.
So I’ve learned it’s much better for us to take the kinder, gentler approach.
The one where we recognize that weโre only human.
And therefore imperfect.
That we did the very best we could.
In the moment.
With the knowledge we had at the time.
The kinder, gentler approach is the one that moves us forward.
And helps us let go of wishing for things to be any different than they actually are.
Thereโs such power in that.
Because we all know you canโt change the past.
But what you can do is move forward from here.
From where you are right now.
In this very moment.
Doing it the best (imperfect) way you know how.
The sooner you embrace that, the more empowered youโll feel.
So make a commitment to yourself to begin now.
Go plant that tree.
Start that business, end that draining relationship!
Go back to school or write that book.
Take whatever next step youโve been dreaming of!
Do it.
NOW.
Because letโs face it…
If not now, when?
Kerry xo