Years ago, a thoughtful manager of mine introduced me to the power of self-compassion.
She wrote “be gentle on your soul” inside a beautiful journal she’d given me as a going away gift.
I was leaving my job to move across the world, in hopes of starting a new life in Scotland.
I was young and full of hope.
Both excited and nervous about taking such a huge leap of faith, into the unknown.
I’ve never forgotten how good it felt to open the cover of that journal, and read her words for the very first time.
Be gentle on your soul.
I loved the way those words sounded.
They resonated deep within me.
And gave me the permission, I unknowingly craved, to treat myself more kindly. As I took risks, and moved forward into the uncharted territory of my life.
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For over a year now I’ve had a burning desire to post videos on social media. I’ve always enjoyed being in front of an audience, so it’s no big surprise.
But what is surprising (at least to me) is that I wasn’t making it happen.
No matter how much I wanted to, I just couldn’t take any action.
I felt frustrated and stuck.
I was paralyzed with fear. Of putting myself out there.
Every time I got close to posting something I’d think: “don’t be ridiculous, who the heck is going to watch you?”
Continue reading “Moving through my fear”
I have a confession to make.
I haven’t written a blog in 12 whole months. And I’ve felt very conflicted about it.
On one hand, I’ve had plenty to say and have started many drafts. On the other hand, I’ve been severely lacking in follow through.
And that’s just plain sucked.
Many times I’ve asked myself why I’ve stopped writing my blog.
And I’ve come up with all sorts of answers. Or perhaps they were just excuses.
Continue reading “Don’t dim your light!”
For as long as I can remember I’ve been asking myself the BIG questions in life.
What’s my purpose? Why am I here? What should I be when I grow up?
Well I’m all grown up now (and have been for a while), so it may seem odd to hear that I still struggle with these questions.
But struggle I do.
You see while I may be a life coach with a passion for personal growth, I’m also a huge numbers geek.
Continue reading “Am I this? Or am I that?”
You’d think I’d be incredibly happy while accomplishing one of my life-long dreams.
Well sure, I was happy.
But I was also blindsided at the same time by some pretty deep feelings of self-doubt.
Dreams don’t always show up quite the way we imagine.
The journey to my dream started twenty plus years ago when I read a book called Do What You Are: Discover the Perfect Career for You Through the Secrets of Personality Type by Barbara Barron and Paul D. Tieger.
Continue reading “Embracing all of me (even the parts I don’t like)”
When I was growing up my mother often said to me: just be yourself.
But did she really mean it? And why, after so many years, is it still so damn hard to do?
I have zero doubts my parents loved me. Yet sometimes their love felt conditional.
Just be yourself (as long as it’s the version we like).
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Recently I heard a woman on the radio use the phrase: step into your enough-ness.
It stopped me in my tracks.
Step into your enough-ness.
OK, I get it. What a great reminder for a woman like me, a recovering perfectionist.
And what a terrific book or workshop title.
I wrote it down in my journal of great ideas, as I have done so many times before, and then promptly forgot about it.
Fast forward to today. I was out walking on the seawall, all alone in the rain.
It was just me and my thoughts.
And my growing anxiety about writing my very first blog.
What should I write about?
What speaks to me? Comes from my heart?
What would resonate with other women? Continue reading “Step into your enough-ness”