Do you know what your next steps in life should be?
Not five years from now. Not the big picture.
Just — next.
Because for a lot of women I work with, that’s the part that feels impossible.
Not the destination. The next step.
They’re not confused about what matters to them.
They’re not lacking information or intelligence or drive.
They’re just standing in the middle of a real transition — a relationship shift, a career crossroads, kids leaving, a life that used to fit and somehow no longer does — and the path forward feels like a tangled ball of yarn.
One client described it exactly that way.
She came in knowing something needed to change.
She just couldn’t find the thread to pull.
When your next steps in life feel impossible to see
This is one of the most common things I hear from women who come to work with me.
Not “I have no idea what I want.”
More like: “I know something needs to shift. I just can’t see how to get from here to there.”
There’s a version of stuck that looks like confusion.
But often it’s not confusion at all.
It’s overwhelm.
The feeling that you need to be able to see the whole path before you take a single step.
And so you wait.
You think. You go around in circles.
And the yarn gets more tangled, not less.
I know this feeling from the inside
Not long ago I found myself at my own version of this crossroads.
I’d been coaching women for years. Doing work I believed in, helping women I genuinely cared about.
But I’d been treating it like a side project. Something I fit around everything else rather than something I took seriously as the work I was actually called to do.
I knew something needed to change. I just kept circling without moving.
What finally shifted wasn’t a big revelation. It was a decision to stop waiting until I had it all figured out and ask myself a simpler question:
What’s the one thing I know is true right now?
What I knew was this: the women coming to me weren’t just looking for more joy in their lives — they were in the middle of real transitions.
They needed help getting clear, finding their footing, and trusting themselves enough to take the next step forward.
That’s the heart of the life transitions coaching work I do.
That was my work. It had always been my work.
Once I stopped waiting to see the whole picture and just acted on what I already knew, everything else started to fall into place.
You don’t need to see the whole path
The shift that makes the biggest difference when figuring out your next steps in life isn’t clarity about where you’re going.
It’s giving yourself permission to take one small, do-able step in the direction that feels true, without needing to know exactly where it leads.
Not a leap. Not a plan.
Just the next step.
Because here’s what I’ve learned from years of working with women in the middle of a life transition…
You rarely get clarity before you move. Clarity comes from moving.
From trying something small and noticing how it feels. From pulling one thread and seeing what loosens.
Where to start when you feel tangled
If you’re standing in the middle of a transition right now and can’t see the next step, try asking yourself these questions:
What do I already know is true — even if I’ve been talking myself out of it? Usually the knowing is already there. It’s the second-guessing that’s getting in the way.
What’s the smallest possible version of a next step? Not the whole plan. Not the brave leap. The one small thing you can do this week that moves you even an inch forward.
What would feel like relief rather than pressure?
The right next step usually has a quality of yes, that — even when it’s uncomfortable. Pressure usually means you’re trying to force the whole answer at once.
If second-guessing is the thing getting between you and your next step, my free guide How to Stop Second-Guessing Yourself is a good place to start.
It’s a short, practical tool for women who keep overriding what they already know — including a simple three-step process to help you hear yourself again.
Kerry xo