I learned this lesson the hard way.
To stop waiting for someone else to save me.
To make my life better.
It was no one else’s job but my own.
But that’s not what I was taught.
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If not now…when?
One of my favourite proverbs is:
The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The next best time is now.
It makes me realize how easy it is for us to get stuck in the past.
“I should’ve planted that tree (followed that dream!) 20 years ago. I can’t believe I wasted all that time!”
So we end up beating ourselves up.
For all the time we wasted and for what “could’ve been.”
Finding a balance between doing and being
How beautiful it is to do nothing, and then rest afterward. ~ Proverb
Lately I’ve been trying to find a balance between “doing” and “being.”
Balancing my time between the desire to do more of what I’m on this planet to do (coach more women!) with my opposite desire.
To rest and replenish my soul.
And nurture my creativity.
In a world that frequently pushes us to go faster and faster — and do more, more, more!! — resting isn’t always encouraged.
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You have the right to change your mind
For years I was a “yes” person. 
If someone made a request of me, I’d say yes without hesitation.
But it got me into all sorts of trouble.
Not huge trouble.
Just the “why did I say yes, I don’t really want to do it” kind.
The kind that put someone else’s need before my own.
Begin
Begin.
What a funny little word.
So small.
Yet so powerful.
It calls for action. For movement forward.
And sometimes it calls for courage.
Honour the space between no longer and not yet
I’m in that in-between place again. The one I call “limbo-land.”
The space between “no longer” and “not yet” (as Life Coach, Nancy Levin calls it).
I’ve left some things behind. That I was ready to let go of.
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The greatest gift my father gave me
Years ago while going through my divorce, my therapist suggested I do an exercise about my parents.
I was working through some stuff around my own marriage, as well as the one that had been role-modeled to me by my mom and dad.
The exercise involved taking two pieces of paper and drawing a vertical line down the middle of each.
At the top of one column I wrote “my father.” At the top of the other, “my mother.”
On one of the papers I listed all the traits I liked about my parents. On the other, all the ones I didn’t.
Needless to say it was a very powerful exercise.
One I’ve never forgotten.
Start before you’re ready
About a month ago – or “BTP” (before the pandemic) – I created a YouTube video called Start Before You’re Ready.
Given the climate at the time, the video was light and encouraging. It was meant to inspire you to overcome your fear of imperfection, failure/success, or procrastination.
To do the very thing you love. No matter what.
And to do it now.
Before you’re ready.
Since that time the whole world has shifted. But I’ve come to realize that those words “start before you’re ready” couldn’t be more relevant. Or more true.
Or more important than they are at this time.