I learned the lesson of how to feel ‘good enough’ later in life.
The hard way.
That I needed to stop waiting for someone else to save me.
To make my life better.
That it was no one elseโs job but my own.
Because no one taught me that when I was young.
I was taught to be a โgood girlโ and do what I was told.
To grow up and get married and have kids.
And to look to my husband/a man to complete my life.
That I hadnโt succeeded until I had.
So when I got married years ago, I expected my marriage to complete me.
That HE would complete ME.
But thatโs not what happened.
He made my life…
Um…
Miserable to be honest!
In fact we made each otherโs lives miserable.
Simply put, we were not a good fit.
Like many of us, I had my own work to do.
I had to figure out what my own needs and wants were separate from his.
Separate from what Iโd been told they were by my family.ย
And by society.
I had to learn how to stand on my own two feet.
To have my own back.
To figure out who I was.
And not look to others to tell me who I was.
Iย had to rescue me.
From my own chronic self-doubts and limiting beliefs.
To believe that I was good enough.
And to discard the line from the movieย Jerry McGuire that Iโd been carrying around in my head for years:
โYou complete me.โ
I call B.S.!
No one completes us!
They may compliment or enhance our lives.ย
But they sure as heck donโt complete us.
Because we were never โincompleteโ in the first place.
Weโve always been whole.
We just didnโt know it.
Or no one ever taught us.
So next time you don’t feel good enough.
Or youโre looking for someone else to rescue you.
Or make your life better…
Please do me a huge favour.
Your savior is looking back at you.
And is ready, willing and able to help you be the person you already are.
That you always were.
For youโve been there all along.
YOU are the person youโve been waiting for.
Kerry xo
P.S. Watch my video Showing Up As Good Enough.
Oh I like the lines โweโve always been whole, we just didnโt know itโ ๐
Thanks Kellie โ itโs true…we have!! ๐
Great post!
Thank you Nicole! I appreciate the vote of confidence! ๐