By now you’ve probably heard about the Law of Attraction.
But have you heard about the Law of Reflection?
It’s another Universal law.
It states that what we see ‘out there’ (in other people) is also ‘in here’ (in us).
That we act as mirrors for one another.
So whatever I can see in you, must also be in me.
Or as the great Sufi poet Rumi wrote 700+ years ago:
“The beauty you see in me is a reflection of you.”
I love Rumi’s quote.
Along with the Law of Reflection, it reminds me to take accountability for myself.
For my own ‘stuff.’
It encourages me to point less fingers. To be less judgmental of others.
To be kinder. More compassionate.
Cuz let’s face it, the world could sure use more of *that* right now.
It’s why I always like to end my daily yoga practice with the word Namaste…
The divine in me honours the divine in you.
To acknowledge that we’re all in this together.
Rumi’s words have also helped me to understand that while I have some great — and not-so-great — qualities, I do in fact have them ALL.
We all do.
Otherwise we wouldn’t be able to recognize those qualities in another.
(You can’t see what you don’t have.)
As a life coach it’s been easy for me to focus on my own self-improvement.
On trying to change the qualities I don’t like in myself.
But over the years, I’ve come to realize that this really doesn’t work! For me (or the women I coach).
Instead of working hard to get rid of my negative traits, it’s easier to do the opposite!
Rather than trying to improve myself, I’ve learned to simply accept myself.
As I am.
To turn my attention inwards. Towards my light.
To acknowledge and embrace the beauty you see IN me.
(That I can so clearly see in others).
The same is true for you.
That amazing quality you so readily admire in someone else?
Well my friend, guess what?
You have it, too!
That very same quality that they have is yours to claim.
To own. To cherish.
And to share with the world.
Because when you compare yourself to others, and come up lacking, you’re not doing yourself any favours.
In fact you’re doing you, your loved ones, and the world a huge disservice.
The Universe doesn’t need you to play small.
Playing small doesn’t serve you. Or anyone else for that matter.
Rather, the Universe is inviting you to step up.
Into your own genius. Your own power. Your own light.
It’s inviting you to be fully YOU.
And to spread your beautiful, authentic light wherever you go.
Because doing so serves you AND the world.
So the next time you’re comparing yourself to someone else and playing small, try these 3 simple steps instead:
☀️ Write a list of ALL the great qualities you admire in the other person.
☀️ Put that list somewhere you can see: on your fridge, mirror, phone or computer. It doesn’t matter where, as long as you’ll see it every day.
☀️ Read the list and practice ‘owning’ those very qualities in yourself. Because I promise you, you have them, too!
You just might need a gentle reminder to look at them more closely.
So you can see your own beauty reflected back at you.
Kerry xo
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