I have a confession to make…
I was once obsessed with the show Good Girls on Netflix.
Like down the rabbit hole, 4-5 episodes a night obsessed.
Watching Ruby, Annie & Beth do their crazy sh*t was like watching an accident happen.
On one hand I was appalled by the decisions they kept making.
Yet on the other hand, I couldn’t take my eyes off the screen.
I found myself rooting for them 100%!
So it got me thinking…
Why am I cheering so hard for these women (aka criminals)?
And I finally figured out the answer…
Because I relate to them (well, minus the criminal part)!
Like me, they’d been raised to be ‘good girls.’
To do what they were supposed to do.
Be obedient. Kind. Pretty.
To just shut up. Mind their own business. Be grateful for what they had.
No matter how dissatisfied they were with their lives.
In other words…powerless.
Yup. I get it.
I spent years trying to live up to the “good girl” standard myself.
Do things the right way.
Be nice, get good grades.
Find a good job and a good man.
Get married, have kids, make a nice home.
Cook, clean, do laundry.
You know the drill.
I worked hard trying to be the good girl the world told me I should be.
And just like Beth, Annie and Ruby I didn’t get the fairy tale ending I’d hoped for.
Instead I got divorced.
Became a single parent, without a job.
And, for awhile, without a future.
I felt duped. Angry. Powerless.
Like “wtf, I did everything I was supposed to do. How did I end up here?”
Looking back now, I can see how hard I tried to reach an impossible standard of the perfect ‘good girl.’
And how long it took me to figure out who I really was.
And who I wanted to be moving forward.
It meant I had to learn to stop being a good girl in the old, exhausting sense.
Because unlike the Good Girls, our true power doesn’t come from ‘out there’ (no grocery store heists required!)
It comes from in here.
From first noticing how you feel.
In your body. In your soul.
From connecting to your own powerful inner compass.
From paying attention to what works for YOU (and what doesn’t).
What makes you feel good…and what doesn’t.
And learning to trust and follow those cues.
Because your inner voice — your inner wise woman — knows you are plenty good enough.
Exactly as you are.
You don’t need to DO more. HAVE more. Or BE more.
And you sure as heck don’t need to fix or improve yourself.
You just need to stop being a good girl in the old way.
And start accepting, loving, and trusting yourself.
Again. And again.
No matter what.
Because that’s your true 💥 power. 💥
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In the meantime, here’s to taking off your mask, standing in your power and being who you were always meant to be.
Good girl or not.
Kerry xo