I have a confession to makeโฆโ
Iโm obsessed with the showย Good Girlsย on Netflix.
Like down the rabbit hole, 4-5 episodes a night obsessed.
โโWatching Ruby, Annie & Beth do their crazy sh*t is like watching an accident happen.ย
On one hand Iโm appalled by the bad decisions they continue to make.
โYet on the other hand I canโt take my eyes off the screen.
I find myself rooting for them 100%!
โSo it got me to thinkingโฆ
โWhy am I cheering so hard for these three women (aka criminals)?
โAnd I finally figured out the answer…
Because I relate to them (minus the criminal part)!
โJust like me, they were raised to be โgood girls.’
To do what they wereย supposed toย do.
Be obedient. Kind. Pretty.
To just shut up. Mind their own business.
And be grateful for what they had.
โNo matter how dissatisfied they were with their circumstances. Or their lives.โ
So in the end they felt powerless.
โYup. I get it.
I spent years trying to live up to the good girl status myself.
โAnd do things theย rightย way.
To be nice, get good grades.
Find a good job & a good man.
โTo get married, have kids & make a nice home.
To cook, clean & do laundry.
โYou know the drill.
I spent a long time trying to be the good girl the world told me I should be.
And just like Beth, Annie & Ruby I didnโt get the fairy tale ending I’d hoped for either.
โInstead I got divorced.
And became a single parent, without a job.
And seemingly without a future.
โWhich left me feeling duped.
โAndย powerless.
โLike โwtf, I did everything I was supposed to do. How did I end up here?”
โWhen I look back now, I can see how hard I tried to reach an impossible standard of the perfect ‘good girl.’
โAnd how long it took me to figure out who Iย reallyย was.
โAndย who I wanted to be moving forward.
Which meant I had to learn to turn inwards.
Because unlike the Good Girls,ย our true power doesn’t come from โout thereโ (donning ski masks & robbing grocery stores)!
Or from focusing so much on others.
It comes from โin here.โ
โFrom first noticing how you feel.
Insideย your body.
Inside your soul.
โConnecting to your own powerful inner compass.
โAnd paying attention to what works for YOUย (& what doesn’t).
โWhat makesย youย feel goodย (& what doesn’t).
โAnd learning to trust & follow those cues.
โBecause your inner voice / wise woman / sage knows you are plenty good enough.
Exactlyย as you are.
You donโt need to DO more.ย HAVE more.ย Or BE more.
And you sure as heck donโt need to fix yourself.
Improve yourself.
Or strive to be ‘better.’
โYou just need to accept, love & trust yourself.
โAgain.
And again.โ
No matter what.
Because thatโs your true ๐ฅย power.ย ๐ฅ
โSo if you’d like guidance in strengthening your own inner voice, join the wait list for my new course: โโ“Back to You: for Women Wanting to Reconnect to Their Inner Voice, Reclaim Their Power & Live a More Authentic Life.”โ
In the meantime, here’s to taking off your mask, standing in your power & being who you were always meant to be.
Good girl or not.
โKerry xo