I have a confession to make…
I’m obsessed with the show Good Girls on Netflix.
Like down the rabbit hole, 4-5 episodes a night obsessed.
Watching Ruby, Annie & Beth do their crazy sh*t is like watching an accident happen.
On one hand I’m appalled by the bad decisions they continue to make.
Yet on the other hand I can’t take my eyes off the screen.
I find myself rooting for them 100%!
So it got me to thinking…
Why am I cheering so hard for these three women (aka criminals)?
And I finally figured out the answer…
Because I relate to them (minus the criminal part)!
Just like me, they were raised to be ‘good girls.’
To do what they were supposed to do.
To be obedient. Kind. Pretty.
To just shut up. Mind their own business.
And be grateful for what they had.
No matter how dissatisfied they were with their circumstances. Or their lives.
So in the end they felt powerless.
Yup. I get it.
I spent years trying to live up to the good girl status myself.
And do things the right way.
To be nice, get good grades.
Find a good job & a good man.
To get married, have kids & make a nice home.
To cook, clean & do laundry.
You know the drill.
Basically I spent a long time trying to be exactly who the world told me I should be.
And just like Beth, Annie & Ruby I didn’t get the fairy tale ending I’d hoped for either.
Instead I got divorced.
And became a single parent, without a job.
And seemingly without a future.
Which left me feeling duped.
And powerless.
Like “wtf, I did everything I was supposed to do. How did I end up here?”
When I look back now, I can see how hard I tried to reach an impossible standard of the perfect ‘good girl.’
And how long it took me to figure out who I really was.
And who I wanted to be moving forward.
Which meant I had to learn to turn inwards.
Because unlike the Good Girls, our true power doesn’t come from ‘out there’ (donning ski masks & robbing grocery stores)!
Or from focusing so much on others.
It comes from ‘in here.’
From first noticing how you feel.
Inside your body.
Inside your soul.
Connecting to your own powerful inner compass.
And paying attention to what works for YOU (& what doesn’t).
What makes you feel good (& what doesn’t).
And learning to trust & follow those cues.
Because your inner voice / wise woman / sage knows you are plenty good enough.
Exactly as you are.
You don’t need to DO more. HAVE more. Or BE more.
And you sure as heck don’t need to fix yourself.
Improve yourself.
Or strive to be ‘better.’
You just need to accept, love & trust yourself.
Again.
And again.
And again.
No matter what.
Because that’s your true 💥 power. 💥
So if you’d like guidance in strengthening your own inner voice, join the wait list for my new course: “And Back to You: for Women 40+ Wanting to Reconnect to Their Inner Voice, Reclaim Their Power & Live a More Authentic Life.”
In the meantime, here’s to taking off your mask, standing in your power & being who you were always meant to be.
Good girl or not.
Kerry xo