One of my favourite movies is the 1993 rom-com Groundhog Day.
In it Bill Murray plays a self-centered, big-city weatherman ‘Phil Connors.’ Who gets stuck in the small town of Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania reliving Groundhog Day.
Over and over again.
(I’m guessing you’ve seen the movie by now — but if you haven’t it’s a must see.)
So whenever it’s Groundhog Day here in Canada and the US…
And I wait to hear if the groundhog saw his shadow or not.
And whether we’ll have 6 more weeks of winter.
It always gets me thinking…
It’s easy to get stuck in our own version of Groundhog Day.
And continue to repeat the same complaints, limiting beliefs, and patterns in our life.
Over.
And over.
And over again.
Having no idea, like Phil in Groundhog Day, how to get unstuck.
And move forward.
As a life coach for women I’ve noticed that my clients often have one of these common limiting beliefs.
Beliefs that have kept them stuck in a spiral of self-doubt.
And unable to move forward towards their dreams.
Here are the most common limiting beliefs I see (and have experienced myself):
🦫I’m too much – playing small, so they don’t shine their light too brightly and cause someone else to feel uncomfortable or say “who do you think you are?”
🦫 I’m imperfect – not putting themselves ‘out there’ because they might do it ‘wrong’ or imperfectly (and get criticized)
🦫 I’m not ‘good enough – comparing themselves with others and finding themselves lacking (so why even bother to try?)
Perhaps you can relate.
Or maybe you have a different belief or pattern that’s not serving you. But instead is causing you to live your own version of Groundhog Day?
A belief that holds you back. From expressing your truest self?
And from living your best life?
If so, perhaps it’s time to move beyond these common limiting beliefs.
And go after what you really want in life.
Once and for all.
If you’re ready, here are 4 steps that can help you move forward:
- Acknowledge your unhealthy patterns. You need to be aware of your limiting beliefs before you can change them. Try journaling, talking to a friend or therapist, or hire a coach like me to help you get clear on what’s holding you back.
- Commit to changing. Now that you’ve shed light on a common limiting belief or pattern, it’s time to stop overcommitting yourself to others and finally commit to yourself. And say yes to moving through it.
- Take action. The best medicine for getting unstuck is taking action. So find one do-able micro-movement that you can, and want to, do today (this week/this month) to start moving forward. And to help gather new evidence that your limiting belief is simply NOT true. Repeat after me: I’m NOT too much. I’m perfect just the way I am. And I’m plenty good enough!
- Build momentum. Now that you’ve taken a step toward proving that belief wrong, keep going! Continue to take small steps each day / week / month that will build momentum and propel you forward. Into your future. Towards your dreams.
And before you know it, you’ll start to feel just like Bill Murray did in Groundhog Day…
Happy and freeeeeee!
And ready to step into your big, beautiful life, where you get to be your authentic self.
No apologies!
Kerry xo