Life doesn’t always go as planned.
Like a few moments ago…
When I went to take my soup out of the microwave. And a small potato inside of it exploded.
Spraying hot, creamy clam chowder all over the inside of my microwave. And my kitchen counter & floor.
But thankfully not me!
Or like last month…
When I was teaching my 2nd live zoom class for my new women’s empowerment course: BACK TO YOU: Rediscover Yourself & Reclaim Your Power. And realized afterwards that I hadn’t shared my slides properly.
And no one could see them. 🙈
Or the other day…
When I hoped to get an important email written by 3pm.
But I hadn’t factored in that the shot I was getting at 9am, would take me out for the rest of the day!
Can you say holy-freakin’-sore-arm-batgirl?
But here’s the thing…
No matter how much planning & prepping we do, we have ZERO control.
Life is going to throw us some curve-balls.
And the sooner we learn to accept these perfectly imperfect moments, the happier we’ll be.
Now I’m not saying it’s easy!
‘Cuz trust me I soooo get that it’s not.
As a recovering perfectionist I do not give up control easily!
However, what I DO know from experience is that letting go of control, & trusting that things will work out as they should, makes life a whole lot more enjoyable.
Because guess what?
None of us are invincible.
(Yeah, I know you know that, but it bears repeating).
Sometimes life’s just gonna knock you upside the head.
The sh*t WILL hit the fan.
Things WILL fall apart.
And the potatoes inside the soup WILL sometimes explode.
That’s a fact.
It’s what you do, when things goes sideways, that counts.
It’s the choices you make.
Do you freak out?
Yell at the microwave? Stomp your feet like a child?
Kick a hole in your wall?
Or do you take a step back?
Deep breathe, center yourself, & accept these moments for what they are?
Perfectly imperfect ones.
That are simply part of life.
And then find the inner wherewithal to get through them?
One baby step at a time.
With your head held high.
And then later, when the dust settles, learn from them as best you can?
Again, I’m not saying any of this is easy.
But what I AM saying is that you do have a choice in how you handle things.
And the sooner you realize this, the sooner you take back your own power.
‘Cuz in my books, bringing your attention back to you. And the choices YOU make = reclaiming your power.
As for me, I found out the live zoom participants actually preferred watching me on screen, not the slides.
So I chose to embrace this perfectly imperfect zoom moment.
To switch things up in my course as a result.
And move forward in a completely different direction.
One I hadn’t anticipated.
That’s the beauty of letting go of control (when sh*t happens)!
And trusting that you’ll land on your feet.
Just like I did after my clam chowder explosion…
I took a big deep breath. Turned on one of my fav podcasts (Tami Simon’s Insights at the Edge). And quietly mopped up all the mess.
Then I took my warm, bowl of soup outside into the sun. Where I sat & wrote this blog.
It all worked itself out. As it always does.
So how about you?
Is there somewhere in your life you can lessen your grip?
Just a wee bit?
And make a more empowered choice?
One that feels right for you?
I hope so.
‘Cuz you might be surprised how much better you feel when you do.
P.S. I recognize some things in life are MUCH bigger than clam chowder messes. So if you need help, please reach out to a trusted family member, friend, therapist or coach (like me).
P.P.S For more info on my women’s empowerment course: BACK TO YOU: Rediscover Yourself & Reclaim Your Power (a 5-week course in living authentically for women in midlife) click here.