If you’ve ever been told you’re too nice — or you know deep down that you need to stop being too nice — this one’s for you.
I dunno know about you, but I cringe when I hear these words…
“Who do you think you are?”
It hits me right in my overly responsible, good girl gut.
And makes me wanna sit down, be quiet, and NOT rock the boat!
(I mean “who do you think you are?” to rock the boat?)
I know I’m not alone.
Many of us learned to do the same.
We deferred to others.
Stayed hidden. Played small.
Gritted our teeth. Sucked it up.
And shut our traps. 🤐
Basically we did what we were told.
It was called survival.
As a recovering people-pleaser I know this survival tactic all too well.
Because I was a master of it…
Of being who I thought I ‘should’ be rather than who I *really* was.
Trying to prove my worth by accommodating, adapting, and molding myself. And bending over backwards for others.
Making sure they were happy at the expense of myself.
Then my life suddenly imploded!! 💥
→ Enter divorce + single motherhood.
Definitely not what an overly responsible, good girl like me had planned.
But guess what?
My divorce turned out to be a blessing in disguise!
Cuz the new me?
The post-divorce me?
Learned how to stand up, speak up, and stop being too nice.
I got feisty, ruffled some feathers, and rocked the boat. ⛵
Which has helped me be more confident and live the life I want.
One I can finally call my own! 💃
Learning to say no without guilt was a BIG part of that.
Because being at everyone’s beck and call is bloody exhausting! (Dontcha think?)
So if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by other people’s problems…
And you’re tired of coming last on your list..
Yet you’re afraid to set boundaries because you don’t want to:
👉 let others down or hurt or disappoint them
👉 make people angry
👉 be called rude or selfish…
Ready to stop being too nice?
If you’re ready to start saying no with more confidence and less guilt, I created a free guide that can help:
How to Stop Overcommitting Yourself — a 10-step guide to setting better boundaries and protecting your time, energy, and well-being.
It includes journal prompts and a boundaries checklist you can actually use.
Kerry xo