Ever feel confused or overwhelmed?
Stuck. Lost. Unsure about where to go next in life?
I certainly have. Many times.
Like right after my divorce in 2004.
When it suddenly hit me I was a single parent of a one year old!
Whaaaaaaaaaat?
How the freak did *that* happen?
(Divorce and single parenthood were certainly NOT part of my life goals!)
Or the time I realized I had to quit my cushy full-time job…
Because the new manager and I clashed.
And did not share the same values.
At all.
(He was a micro-managing nightmare)!
But if I quit, where would I go?
How would I make money?
And how would I pay my bills?
Then there was the time several years ago.
Right before Christmas.
When I took a huge leap of faith.
And started my second online business.
(The first one had failed miserably.)
Where would I find clients? Who would even hire me for that matter?
And who did I think I was…becoming an entrepreneur again?
(Helloooooo imposter syndrome and perfectionism!)
At each one of these crossroads in life, I was feeling confused and overwhelmed.
And riding intense waves of doubt.
But somehow, against all odds, things managed to work out in the end.
As they always do.
But the truth is I still feel lost, confused, and overwhelmed sometimes.
Especially navigating the online life coaching world!
OMG!
There’s so much info out there.
So many gurus.
So much competition.
And soooooo much advice.
It can be very overwhelming!
As it is when we’re at a significant crossroads in life.
Like starting a new job, business or career.
Divorcing, retiring, or empty-nesting.
Or a moving to a new home. City. Or country.
So whenever my clients are feeling lost and don’t know how to find clarity about their next steps, here are two things I recommend:
1. Accept where you’re at.
Don’t fight your feelings or the situation.
Cuz struggling against it — or wishing that whatever WAS happening, WASN’T — only makes it more difficult. And more painful.
Surrender to the moment.
Accept where you are. And feel what you need to feel.
Honour your experience. And your body’s need to find balance.
For example, when you’re tired, rest.
When you feel overwhelmed, take a step back and get quiet.
Or go do something fun and creative that gets you out of your hamster wheel brain.
And reconnects you to your body and soul.
So you can hear your intuition speak, and know what you need to do to keep moving forward.
2. Ask for help.
One thing I know for sure is that we don’t need to go it alone anymore.
(We never really did.)
There’s plenty of places and people you can go to for help online.
Google, podcasts, videos, blogs.
Or better yet you can ask someone for help.
A therapist. Coach. Family member or friend.
Or one of your trusted cheerleaders.
Someone who knows you.
And knows how to support you.
Someone who’s got your back.
Which is exactly what I did recently.
But I’ll tell you about that conversation in another blog.
For now, I’ll leave you with this.
If you’re feeling lost, confused and overwhelmed in life right now, don’t lose hope.
Just remember these two steps on how to find more clarity:
- Accept where you’re at (lean into your experience and be kind to yourself as you do)
- Ask for help (cuz you’re not alone)
And trust that you WILL get clear, eventually (when the time is right).
Kerry xo
P.S. Click here to watch my video: How to find clarity when you feel overwhelmed in life