How do you feel about the C word?
And nooooooo, I’m not talking about that C word!
I’m talking about another one altogether…
The word Choice.
As a life coach for women, it’s one of the most powerful words I know.
Because when you realize you have choices, you feel empowered. And free.
That’s where it all begins — the willingness to stay open to possibilities.
And choose the ones that feel right for you.
The truth of this hit home for me awhile back…
When I spent a few fun-filled days visiting my old friend (and former Toronto roommate and European travel buddy) Anne.
We packed so much joy into those days.
— long talks, laughter, hiking, kayaking, walking, dining out.
Every day felt like a new adventure.
On my drive home I realized our time together had checked off all the important boxes for me…
Fun. Variety. Time outdoors.
Freedom to be myself.
Deep heart-to-heart connection.
My energy tank was on ‘full.’
I knew I wanted to feel like that more often.
Especially during times of transition…
Those in-between seasons when life is shifting…
And the path ahead feels a little unclear.
That trip reminded me how important it is to dream, imagine, and stay open to possibilities.
To explore all our choices as we move forward.
Even the ones that might seem unrealistic at first.
Because when we shut the door to our imagination before we’ve even opened it, we do ourselves a huge disservice.
We block our creativity.
We block our happiness.
And we stay stuck — in fear, self-doubt, and “I can’t.”
Take one of my former clients.
She was in a job that drained her energy.
Every. Single. Day.
When we started exploring her options — taking a leave, looking for a new role, asking for reduced hours, or even shifting careers — she immediately said:
“I can’t do that!”
Every time I gently reminded her to stay curious and simply explore her choices (no pressure to act on them yet), she resisted.
And she stayed stuck.
Maybe you can relate?
Maybe you’ve caught yourself saying things like:
“You don’t understand!”
“I can’t do that!”
…and then shutting the idea (and yourself) down.
If so, I get it.
Change is scary.
But here’s what I’ve learned:
When you give yourself permission to dream again, you open the door to new and wonderful possibilities.
Ones you didn’t even know were there.
So next time you’re feeling stuck in life, here are 5 steps to help you get unstuck:
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Change “I can’t” to “What if I could?”
This tiny shift changes everything. It opens you to new perspectives and moves your energy from closed to curious.
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Brainstorm all the wild, “if I had a magic wand” ideas.
It doesn’t matter if they sound unrealistic. The point is to dream. That’s where creative solutions begin.
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Choose one idea that feels right for you.
Let go of figuring out how it’ll happen. That’s not your job yet. Just notice what feels lightest, truest, or the most exciting.
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Take one micro-step toward it.
Do some research. Talk to a supportive friend. Write down one next step. Small steps build momentum fast.
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Stay open and curious.
Let your next step lead to the next. You might be surprised how quickly things shift — and how much better you feel as they do.
Explore all the new choices and possibilities before you.
As for me and my own “what’s next,” I’m taking my own advice.
I’m exploring new directions, new experiences, and new ways of living that bring me joy and freedom.
I’m staying open to all sorts of possibilities.
No holds barred.
Travel? A move? Something I haven’t even dreamed of yet?
Who knows?!
And that’s the fun of it.
I’m giving myself the space to imagine and trust that clarity will come.
Because that’s what staying open to possibilities is all about.
So next time you feel stuck, unsure, or trapped in the same routine…
Remember: you always have a choice.
Be brave enough to dream again.
Stay curious.
And don’t shut the door before you’ve even peeked inside.
Cuz that’s how new possibilities — and joy — find you. 💙
Kerry xo
P.S. If you’re feeling stuck and not sure where to start, grab my free guide: 👉 Getting Unstuck: How to gain clarity on your next steps and move forward with confidence. It’ll help you pause, reset, and start opening to possibilities — one small step at a time.