“I think if I let go, it’s all going to fall apart.”
That’s exactly what my client said to me on our coaching call this week.
She’s been working so darn hard. Trying to take care of everyone else.
Trying to keep it altogether.
And control everything.
But it had taken a toll on her.
She was feeling overwhelmed and resentful.
And very, very tired.
Maybe you can relate?
I know I sure can!
Her words reminded me of a time years ago when my life felt totally out of control.
My son was still a baby.
And I was in the middle of divorcing his dad.
Needless to say I was a wreck.
Until I came across the phrase:
‘Let go & trust.’
Those words changed everything for me.
They kept me grounded, centered, and sane (!!) during this tumultuous period of my life.
I repeated them every time I dropped my son off with his dad. And drove away crying.
I had to let go of my precious baby. And trust my ex.
Which felt almost impossible at the time.
But I did it. Every week. Without fail.
All the while repeating my mantra…
“Let go and trust, Kerry”
Eventually it DID get easier.
As I learned to release my grip on what I couldn’t control (my ex).
And focus instead on what I could control — me and how I chose to show up for myself.
That’s when something deeper began to shift.
I realized that letting go isn’t really about giving up control to someone else.
It’s about trusting yourself enough to handle whatever happens next.
Even though my son’s all grown up now…
(and his dad and I have a peaceful co-parenting relationship)…
My mantra is just as important to me today as it was back then.
I still repeat it to myself whenever I feel stuck.
In resentment, fear, worry or frustration.
Whenever I find myself gripping too tightly to the way I think things should be.
Rather than how they really are.
“Let go” I’ll quietly say to myself.
Of worry & anxiety.
Of trying to control everything.
And everyone around me.
“Trust.”
That others will figure out their own stuff!
(Cuz I’m holding them capable.)
That I can handle whatever comes my way.
(Cuz I’ve got my own back!)
That life has a rhythm — ebbs and flows — even when I can’t see the pattern yet.
When I shared these words ‘let go and trust’ with my client this week, they helped her too,
They reminded her to take charge of what was hers to take charge of.
And to hand over the rest…
To others. To the Universe.
Or to whatever higher power she believes in.
Because we simply CAN’T do it ALL!
Nor are we meant to.
(It’s kinda self-inflated to think we can, don’t ya think?!)
So, let me ask you this:
Is there somewhere in your life right now where you’re holding on too tightly? Where you need to let go — and trust yourself more?
I know it’s not easy. Truly I do.
But I encourage you to try.
Here are three small things that might help you let go of control:
1️. Adopt the mantra “let go and trust” and repeat it to yourself often. Write it on a post-it note or make it your phone screensaver. So you see it every day.
2️. When you catch yourself trying to control someone else, pause and say: “I trust they’ll figure it out.” Then go do something else — something that grounds you.
3️. Start focusing on what you can control — the things that build your confidence, calm your nervous system, and bring you joy.
Because just like my client realized, it’s incredibly freeing when you begin to let go of control and trust.
Especially trust in yourself.
That’s where true strength lives.
And where peace begins.
With you.
Kerry xo
P.S. If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start rebuilding that self-trust from the inside out, download my free guide — 7 Mini Practices to Strengthen Your Intuition. It’ll help you quiet the noise, tune in, and reconnect with your inner knowing again.