Ever notice how the qualities you admire in someone else…show up in your own life too?
That’s the Law of Reflection.
A Universal principle that completely changed how I see myself (and others).
The idea is simple…
What you notice in someone else is also within you. We’re mirrors for each other.
So whatever I can see in you…must also be in me.
Or as the Sufi poet Rumi put it over 700 years ago:
“The beauty you see in me is a reflection of you.”
I love that.
It reminds me to take ownership of my experience.
To stop pointing fingers. To be less judgmental.
To lead with compassion.
Cuz let’s be honest, the world could use a whole lot more of that right now.
It’s why I always end my yoga practice with “Namaste”…
The divine in me honours the divine in you.
A quiet way to acknowledge we’re all in this together.
Here’s what the Law of Reflection has taught me:
Yes, I have some wonderful qualities (and some not-so-wonderful ones).
But the truth is — I have them all.
We all do.
Otherwise we wouldn’t recognize them in someone else.
(You can’t see what you don’t already carry within you)
As a life coach it’s easy to get caught in “self-improvement” mode.
Always trying to fix or change the parts of myself I didn’t like.
But that path doesn’t really work.
Not for me. And not for the women I coach.
What does work?
Turning inward. Accepting ourselves as we are.
Reconnecting with our light.
Instead of trying to “fix” ourselves, we can start to love ourselves.
To own the qualities we admire in others.
And believe they’re already in us.
So the next time you find yourself comparing and coming up short, try this instead:
☀️ Write down the qualities you admire in the other person.
☀️ Keep that list somewhere you’ll see it often — your mirror, fridge, phone.
☀️ Read it daily. Begin to claim those qualities in yourself.
Because they are in you.
Sometimes you just need a gentle reminder to look.
That light you see in someone else?
It’s yours, too.
And when you let it shine, you don’t just lift yourself up — you light the way for others.
So, tell me — what’s one quality you’ve been admiring in someone else lately?
And can you let yourself see it in you?
Kerry xo
P.S. Want some further support seeing your own beauty (especially on the days when your self-doubt is loud)? Grab my free guide: 10 Simple Ways to Be Kinder to Yourself — it’s full of gentle practices to help you stop beating yourself up — and start reconnecting with your light.