I dunno know about you, but I cringe when I hear these words…
“Who do you think you are?”
It hits me right in my overly responsible, good girl gut.
And makes me wanna sit down, be quiet, and NOT rock the boat!
(I mean “who do you think you are?” to rock the boat?)
I know I’m not alone.
Many baby boomers and Gen X women learned to do the same.
We deferred to others.
Stayed hidden. Played small.
Gritted our teeth. Sucked it up. And shut our traps. 🤐
Basically we did what we were told.
It was called survival.
As a recovering people-pleaser I know this survival tactic all too well.
Because I was a master of it…
Of being who I thought I ‘should’ be rather than who I *really* was.
Trying to prove my worth by accommodating, adapting, and molding myself. And bending over backwards for others.
Making sure they were happy at the expense of myself.
Until 2004 that is…
When my life suddenly imploded!! 💥
→ Enter divorce + single motherhood.
Definitely not what an overly responsible, good girl like me had planned.
But guess what?
My divorce turned out to be a blessing in disguise!
Cuz the new me?
The post-divorce me?
Learned how to stand up, speak up, and stop being too nice.
I got feisty, ruffled some feathers, and rocked the boat. ⛵
Which has helped me be more confident and live the life I want.
One I can finally call my own! 💃
Learning to say no without guilt was a BIG part of that.
Because being at everyone’s beck and call is bloody exhausting! (Dontcha think?)
So if you’ve been feeling overwhelmed by other people’s problems…
And you’re tired of coming last on your list..
Yet you’re afraid to set boundaries because you don’t want to:
👉 let others down or hurt or disappoint them
👉 make people angry
👉 be called rude or selfish…
Maybe it’s time to get some support from someone who gets it and has been there?
So you can learn how to say no with confidence and grace.
And feel more heard and respected in your relationships.
Interested?
Join my mini-course: Boundaries Bootcamp: Say YES to YOU and NO to Energy Drainers (without feeling guilty or selfish).
Where you’ll learn to stop being too nice…
And start standing up — and speaking up — for yourself.
One graceful no at a time.
Boundaries Bootcamp is perfect for YOU if…
You’re a yes-person, people-pleaser, or conflict avoider.
Or an overly responsible, good girl who struggles to say no and set boundaries with others…
And you’re ready (soooo ready!) to:
- Press pause and figure out what YOU want (before saying yes to anyone or anything).
- Be more aware of your own needs (and recognize when you have too much on your plate).
- Say no to the people and projects that don’t feel good (so you can start saying YES to those that do!)
- Speak up and ask for what you want (instead of staying quiet and sitting on your hands).
- Strengthen your personal boundaries — so you can reclaim your power and take back control of your life!
It’s time to stop being too nice.
By saying no to others and yes to YOU!
Join my Boundaries Bootcamp mini-course today!
Kerry xo